Comments on: Not My Finest Moment

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:56:06 +0000

@Fran, I think this is fascinating territory. Because sometimes good kids (whatever that means) go through bad phases. And those times shouldn't define you. Thankfully I had wonderful parents, teachers (excpet one who was a nightmare), friends who helped me walk through it. And come out a caring and compassionate person.

I read Jodi Picoult's Nineteen Minutes about school violence. It was a fascinating read. It did a wonderful job of exploring the possible emotions of the teenagers and the parents involved. I have also heard wonderful things about Columbine by Dave Cullen. Because unfortunately sometimes there are not happy endings.

By: Fran

Fran — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:27:54 +0000

Wow. Such a great story y'all told Lindsey. Thank you so much for sharing this. I appreciate the honesty so very much. Your stories have taught me so much and reminded me why we do the things we do and how we can best explain things to our children.

And, for the record, I'm shocked you were the bully.

By: Jay Benfield

Jay Benfield — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:08:20 +0000

Sorry to hear about the bullying you received. I must admit, that's a little creepy! How does one make the jump from "angry" to "I'm going to set something on fire"?

By: Marcie

Marcie — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:00:37 +0000

Goodness gracious Naomi–isn't that a form of bullying…'

By: Jay Benfield

Jay Benfield — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 22:29:19 +0000

Thank you, Trudy. That is very kind! I do a quite a bit of writing professionally, but it's all dry stuff (i.e., technical documentation, proposals, etc.). I thoroughly enjoy the more creative side of writing, and aspire to do more of it in the future – hopefully a book or seven. I recently resurrected my blog (shameless plug: http://jaybenfield.com/) to act as an outlet for this largely untapped passion of mine. Thanks again!

By: Peter_P

Peter_P — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:56:11 +0000

You're welcome.

I've met very few people who haven't tried at some time in their lives to exert their superiority in one thing or another. Trying to make some see/believe that you're better than them at something can be a form of bullying, unless done very, very well.

By: Peter_P

Peter_P — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:54:09 +0000

I noticed the smile and thought at first that it made you look insincere… then I sat back and thought about it and realized that if I was doing what you were doing, I'd have an even goofier expression on my face out of nervousness!

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:47:40 +0000

@mari Great thoughts. Thank you for sharing.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:40:08 +0000

@trudymetzger Claim them girl!

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:38:17 +0000

@torybee, I guess it is not so much bullying thats a problem today, but not championing others because of insecurities that I struggle with.