Comments on: Q-U-I-T-T-E-R

By: Michael

Michael — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 08:03:24 +0000

Today I'm quitting two of my old commitments and it's really hard to tell two of my best friends I wouldn't be working on their projects anymore as we used to for so many years, but I've moved on, have some great projects on my own and just can't find the time nor the energy to continue with the old projects…

Thanks, you're an inspiration, your post came just in time for me to make me brave enough to say, ENOUGH!

By: StephanieinLex

StephanieinLex — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:18:22 +0000

Ah, I love the editing metaphor of one of your commenters!

As one who has been overly involved in my 32 years, I've been learning in the last few to enact better, healthier boundaries. I'm still definitely a work in progress. Something that I heard about a year ago also helped, something to the effect of "Your hanging on to a position for which you were not intended could be keeping someone else from fulfilling God's intended role for them in the church (or whatever XYZ organization)."

By: MaurilioAmorim

MaurilioAmorim — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:23:19 +0000

I quit a board position not because the cause was not a good cause, but I was not passionate about it. I only have so much time and I choose to spend where my heart is.

By: David Fredrickson

David Fredrickson — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 17:17:08 +0000

If you would like a complimentary copy of my book, When The Church Leaves The Building, send your mailing address and I'll get one to you.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:26:36 +0000

@Betsy,
I completely get where you are coming from. In this particular situation, it was a civic volunteer opportunity that consisted of a lot of wasted time and silly meetings. I could never have known prior to committing what exactly I was getting into. I do think God calls us to honor commitments, the right commitments. Even with prayerful consideration, I seem find myself getting caught in many relationships, opportunities, etc. that I don't think God would want me to stick with. Yes, I can learn to be more cautious and deliberate prior to beginning things but I also think I will always have things in life I need to "quit." I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for sharing.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:56:13 +0000

@Betsy,
I completely get where you are coming from. In this particular situation, it was a civic volunteer opportunity that consisted of a lot of wasted time and silly meetings. I could never have none prior to committing what exactly I was getting into. I do think God calls us to honor commitments, the right commitments. Even with prayerful consideration, I seem find myself getting many relationships, opportunities, etc. that I don't think God would want me to stick with. Yes, I can learn to be more cautious and deliberate prior to beginning things but I also think I will have things in life I need to "quit." I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for sharing.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:51:50 +0000

@redhead.kate,
One of my Strenghts is "Responsibility." Candidly it is one that I wish I could get rid of. Feeling responsible for everything usually leaves me feeling guilty and exhausted.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:50:08 +0000

@David,
Very intersting. I have some good friends who are in a similar situation. I've loved hearing about what they are learning in the process.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:48:12 +0000

@Jason,
Thanks!

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:47:58 +0000

@Becky,
Glad I'm not alone!