Playing Matchmaker

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I am one of those people who has lots of circles of friends. Single girl friends, church friends, work friends, “campus” friends, Powered by Hope friends, blogging friends, twitter friends, high school friends, college friends, Birmingham friends, camp friends…just to name a few.

So naturally I have several friends who have never had the opportunity to meet. Sometimes it is easier to keep the circles separate.

But sometimes it is fun to find a few friends from two different groups and introduce them, to play “matchmaker.”

Now, I am not talking about matchmaking in a romantic way. (Although that can be fun too.) Here’s what I’m talking about:

A few months ago I arranged a happy hour with the sole purpose of introducing my friends Bryan and Suzanne Norman to Matthew and Alyson Costner. I have known “the Normans” for a few years. They are some of my favorite people on the planet. They are passionate. They love good food. And they are great for a deep conversation about anything from faith to politics or for a night out singing karaoke (You should see Bryan do Springsteen’s “Born to Run.”)

I met “the Costners” through Twitter. I liked something about the way they interacted in 140 characters. My half marathon training gave me the opportunity to meet them “in real life.” I discovered my instincts were right. “The Costners” are great. And they needed to meet “the Normans.”

We all gathered at Eastland Cafe one Thursday evening to enjoy their $5 Happy Hour menu. I had the best time sitting back and watching these two couples enjoy each other. And I get just-plain-giddy every time I hear about them cultivating their friendship. I love knowing that I helped bring them together, that I am part of their story.

My friend Spence is the best at this. Awhile back he called and invited me to join him and a couple of his Compassion friends for dinner. I blogged about the evening because it was monumental for me. I felt invested in, like Spence hand-picked me to meet those folks. There was no awkwardness. We all just clicked. Unbelievably that was the first night I met my fabulous friend Keely. (If you are ever around the two of us, you will assume we’ve known each other for years.) I am SO GRATEFUL that Spence went out of his way to include me that evening, that he followed his instincts and introduced me to Keely and Ryan, that he played “matchmaker.”

Do you have friends that need to meet? People that you know will enjoy each other? What are you waiting for? Step out of your comfort zone and introduce them. Help bring people together. Be a part of their story.

Oh, and please share your “matchmaker” stories…

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Lindsey has a sincere love for her precious dog Molly, a good red wine and the Delta Sky Club. She spends her days (and some nights) laboring to end childhood hunger at Feed the Children and to gather, equip and unleash women at IF:Gathering.

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  • Carol Anne

    Love this post Lindsey! I find myself mixing my circles all the time. In February, after my area in Maryland received 50 inches of snow in less than a week, I had a Valentines party for about 25 couples. We played the Newlywed Game and really learned alot (maybe too much) about each other. Couples who hadn’t met prior are starting to get together for kareoke, poker, bunco, etc. I love it! After following all of the Thomas Nelson friends on Twitter, I told my husband that I would LOVE to take a mini-vacation sometime to Franklin to meet these interesting people and finally see the ‘campus’! You all write so lovingly about your friends, family, and surrounding area. That is so refreshing to read.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Carol Anne, Come on. You need to see "campus." It's a trip!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/SpenceSmith SpenceSmith

    i'm grinning ear to ear right now. this is such a fun post to read. You are so good at developing friendships that are meaningful and fun. Thanks for the hefty compliments in this post. You are a great friend and I love getting to be in your circle.

    for all you others that will read this post. Lindsey is right… making friends and sharing your friends is so good. I absolutely love introducing my circle of friends to each other. i just wish i had more time to do it.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      meant every word. so fun being your friend.

  • Keely

    ahhh I love this post and I love matchmaking =)

    Seriously So thankful that Spence knew we'd be friends.
    And you are SO great at connecting and encouraging those relationships. . .love that about you!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      so glad Spence knew we'd be friends. and that you are going to Catalyst!!!

  • Holly Moore

    Hi Lindsey…

    We have never met, but I have gotten to know you a bit through your blog/twitter after Mike Hyatt mentioned you often. Thanks for this post! I completely agree with you…it is so great to be a part of introducing people to each other and helping others find meaningful life connections. My story is also filled with people who loved and invested in me…and demonstrated that love by including me in their "circle" and making room for "one more at the table". God's blessing on YOU as you continue to invest and pour into others!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Holly, thanks for introducing yourself. Look forward to seeing you around the Twittersphere!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/klreed189 Kyle Reed

    I want to make a living out of this. Being a connector who is constantly meeting people and connecting. I love doing this. Love taking what people are good at or their passion and connecting them to that or people.

    It is weird though when you connect people who are from two different "worlds" and now they know each other and interact together in the same place.
    My recent post Question(s) for You

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      I love it too. And I love when my job allows me to go out and connect. I feel in my "zone."

      • http://intensedebate.com/people/klreed189 Kyle Reed

        Yes, and now I need to find a job that allows me to do that.
        I do feel like I am in the zone when I get to do this.
        My recent post Question(s) for You

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert

    I love the way you invest in your friends. It says a lot about how much you care about them that you would take these kinds of extra steps. Way to go!!
    My recent post Well, God, that's all well and good, but…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Thanks Jason!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/KristineMac KristineMac

    This makes me think of that song from Fiddler on the Roof :) I don't have a particularly large group of friends, but there was a time where I did successfully introduce some folks and it was well worth the effort and enjoyment of watching the relationship flourish.
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  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/bennettaj bennettaj

    I've never thought about doing this! Hmm, I'm going to start thinking hard about it!
    My recent post Sunday Highlights: imPOSSIBLE: Letting Go of Your Baggage

  • http://alysoncostner.blogspot.com/ Alyson

    Lindsey! I love that you introduced us to "the Normans". This is truly a gift you have. And we are definitely overdue some karaoke…. Have a great trip this week and I’ll see you Saturday at the race!
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  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/jennyrain jennyrain

    this reminds me of my friend AnnieLaurie (@annielaurie) (Alece met her a couple of weeks ago). She is the quintessential "Bridge Builder" and has been ever since I've known her. Not suprising she is our communications director :)

    i love that y'all do this… build community… i want to get better at this. it's safe behind 140 characters… its more scary in the real world… yet that is where lives are transformed :) i'm sooooo grateful for the Bridge Builders in my life :)
    My recent post Ode to Sticky Notes

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    I absolutely LOVE to do the same thing. I've been on both sides of this, actually. On several occasions I have been approached by a friend who insisted that I meet "so and so", we were connected, had coffee or lunch and have developed great relationships.

    In fact, although I am sure I would have met him at some point, when I first starting coming to Cross Point it was our mutual friend Steve Brewster who insisted that I connect with Justin Davis. I reached out to Justin, via the Steve intro, and I'm so grateful for that connection as Justin has quickly become a great and trusted friend.

    On the flip side, I get such a kick out of doing this and connecting friends of mine who don't know each other but should. I'm actually in the process of making one such connection now. Great post, Lindsey!
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  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/gritandglory alece

    i have a love/hate relationship with matchmaking…
    My recent post guarding my heart