California: Haircut & Awkward Love

Saturday morning I flew out to sunny Southern California. I had been looking for a great excuse to escape the oppressive Tennessee heat and this really cool opportunity (more about that later) popped up at the last minutes to spend a couple of days with friends in Cali-forn-ia.  How could I say no to that?


After several hours in the sky, I landed at John Wayne International Airport and a perfect day ensued.

I lingered over a LONG girly brunch with Bianca and Anne.

I got a haircut. And by cut, I mean CUT. (see exhibit A above)

I went to Mariner’s Church to see my friend Kyle Zimmerman lead worship.

And I heard a powerful message from Jeff Pries that felt like it was a not so subtle nudging,

“Lindsey, here’s how you deal with your terrible tally problem.”

Jeff said that a good relationship is one where people know their feelings (even the deep, dark, scary ones) and communicate them in humility and love.

He said that there is ALWAYS a gap in relationships between expectation and reality. And he said that you have to make a choice.

You have to choose whether you are going to expect the worst OR believe the best.

I am ready to make that choice.

I want to be someone who chooses recklessly, boldly, even naively, to believe the best.

I want to be someone who loves awkwardly.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and IT KEEPS NO RECORD OF BEING WRONGED. It does not rejoice in injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is awkward.

How was your weekend?

PS – Here’s a link to watch the complete message.

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  • i like that better, love awkwardly. my husband and i jokingly say love sucks. it sounds harsh, but we realized that we have to take those hits sometimes. because we are human. and we choose to endure because how much more am i able to show God's love to the hubs, when he does/thinks/says things that don't meet my expectations? i love him through it all because he loved (loves) me beyond my messy self. ____cute, sassy haircut…hopefully you got some cute clothes to go with? yes?!

    • sure it sucks sometimes too… 🙂

      didn't buy any clothes but i have more than i need right now!

  • Chrystie

    Love the post AND the super awesome haircut!
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  • On Sunday we celebrated my Dad's 80th birthday, a few days early. His eight siblings and their spouses all chartered a bus and rode into town to surprise him. It's very rare to have the whole family together like that. To sit in on all their tales of growing up together was priceless and an honor. I love my family. What a blessed weekend!
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  • Alison

    "You have to choose whether you are going to expect the worst OR believe the best." You just put my current worries into perspective with this one sentence! 🙂

  • I like the haircut, FWIW.

    I'm glad you were able to escape the dutch oven of Tennessee for a few days! Sounds like you had a lot of fun. I'm really looking forward to meeting Bianca in person when she comes to Nashville next month.
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  • Bianca_Juarez

    I don't know what's better?! Your hair or the clear message about love? 😉

    I'm so happy for you. Come to Cali anytime!
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    • Think I'll come back Friday!

      So fun seeing you. Thanks for taking so much time out of your crazy busy schedule to linger over lunch. I wished you lived closer so we could do it more often.

  • Love the cut! Of course I am a little biased at this time! Glad your back.

  • I love that. Love is awkward.

  • Crazy and exciting to say the least

    Love that though. Going back to your post a while back about keeping track etc…I remember identifying with you on that and so reading what you said is great stuff. I have that problem, expectations are high and people never live up to them which in turn gets me into a lot of trouble because people are never as great as I think they should be. Which is ridiculous because that either means that I think I am great (based on the expectations that I place on others) or that no one is good enough for me. I don't think that way, but it could come off that way.

    But I love what you wrote there and what the minister said: You have to choose whether you are going to expect the worst OR believe the best.

    I am working on letting go of expectations and embracing friendship.
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  • SpenceSmith

    i love this post on so many levels and i will probably share them with you over mexican food:)

  • I want to be someone who chooses recklessly, boldly, even naively, to believe the best.

    Me too! Unfortunately, I am the opposite more often ….
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  • I didn’t have to fly at all to get to Cali-forn-ia this weekend, which is probably why I didn’t appreciate being here all that much.

    I didn’t get a haircut but had a zillion people at my house for my Mother-in-law’s birthday party.

    I should say I really enjoyed it, but the fact is that i don’t like crowds very much. I love them but I just feel… awkward!

  • that communication stuff is the real deal. when i start living inside my head, things always get tougher. communication might seem like the harder choice, but in the end it always works out best.
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  • i think your hair looks great! can't wait to see it in person — and can't believe how many times you're zig-zagging across the country this month!

    that message about love and trust? so powerful. reminiscent of andy stanley's talk at catalyst last year… i was just thinking about that today. hmmm….

  • I like the new do!!! I will say I'm a bit jealous…I left the heat of North Texas to visit my little brother in the hospital in HOT Cleveland, TN!!!
    Love is awkward, especially when trying to communicate it to a 16 yr old girl!!!
    Thanks for helping to put my thoughts in order!
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  • Oh I love the haircut! So cute. Thanks for sharing your comments on the message you heard. I know I definitely need to love more awkwardly myself.
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  • I love it "Awkward Love…" The hubby and I have been doing some premarital coaching with a couple that he is marrying this weekend. We were discussing love being a decision… a choice

    and then I read… "You have to choose whether you are going to expect the worst OR believe the best." SO TRUE!!!!