I am 34. And single.
So the question has been posed a time or two by friends, family, and complete strangers,
Are you too picky? Perhaps? Just a little? Too picky?
Honestly, I don’t know the answer to that one.
I know that I have finally stopped looking for a younger George Clooney, the captain of the football team, or the king of the frat house.
And I know that I have three things that are non-negotiables. (No, they aren’t a full head of hair, a six-pack, or a European luxury sedan.) They are as simple as this. I am looking for someone who is kind, strong, and funny.
Kind. I want someone who genuinely cares for others. And by others I mean not just those that it is convenient to love. I want someone who purposely builds into those around him. I want someone who chooses his words carefully and speaks gently even when having “tough conversations”.
Strong. I want someone who is protective of what is good and what is right. I want someone who makes me feel safe. I want someone who is confident in who he is and is passionately pursuing what God has called him to. I want someone who will challenge me to be the best version of myself. And I want (okay, maybe I don’t so much want this as need it) someone who will put me in my place (sometimes I can be a little too sassy for my own good).
Funny. I want someone who makes me laugh until I cry. I want someone who encourages me to be freakishly silly. I want someone who can enjoy Christmas, Disneyland, and adventures with pure unadulterated child-like joy.
If those three non-negotiables are too much to ask for, then I am will continue on finding contentment in the single life.
Maybe I am just too picky?
Singles: Would you consider yourself picky? What are the three most important qualities you want in a future partner? Be honest.
Marrieds: What were you looking for? What did you find?