Too Picky?

I am 34. And single.

So the question has been posed a time or two by friends, family, and complete strangers,

Are you too picky? Perhaps? Just a little? Too picky?

Honestly, I don’t know the answer to that one.

I know that I have finally stopped looking for a younger George Clooney, the captain of the football team, or the king of the frat house.

And I know that I have three things that are non-negotiables. (No, they aren’t a full head of hair, a six-pack, or a European luxury sedan.) They are as simple as this. I am looking for someone who is kindstrong, and funny.

Kind. I want someone who genuinely cares for others. And by others I mean not just those that it is convenient to love. I want someone who purposely builds into those around him. I want someone who chooses his words carefully and speaks gently even when having “tough conversations”.

Strong. I want someone who is protective of what is good and what is right. I want someone who makes me feel safe. I want someone who is confident in who he is and is passionately pursuing what God has called him to. I want someone who will challenge me to be the best version of myself. And I want (okay, maybe I don’t so much want this as need it) someone who will put me in my place (sometimes I can be a little too sassy for my own good).

Funny. I want someone who makes me laugh until I cry. I want someone who encourages me to be freakishly silly. I want someone who can enjoy Christmas, Disneyland, and adventures with pure unadulterated child-like joy.

If those three non-negotiables are too much to ask for, then I am will continue on finding contentment in the single life.

Maybe I am just too picky?


Singles: Would you consider yourself picky? What are the three most important qualities you want in a future partner? Be honest.

Marrieds: What were you looking for? What did you find?

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Lindsey has a sincere love for her precious dogs Molly and Maisy, a good red wine and the Delta Sky Club.

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  • Hi Lindsey. Love this post….Thank you for keeping it real.

    My 3 things:
    -Someone comitted to the Great Commission as evident in their top 3 priorities: (God, Family/other's, themself)
    -Loves Children
    -Sense of humour


  • I'm 28 and single and am definitely picky. It's interesting you mention this because just a few weeks ago, God had me redefine my list. I thought great. Another list. Just what I need, but it was exactly what I needed. Thanks for sharing yours 🙂 I like it!!!

  • I recently got married and I tell my single friends to NOT SETTLE. Some "married" days are really long and if I were to have settled just to get married by a certain age, I would be miserable right now. Luckily, I didn't and I got my wish list of a man. I don't think anything you listed is too picky – they are what you deserve. If you have to spend a few years looking for that, that is so much better than spending a lifetime with someone who doesn't give you what you know deep down you need and deserve.
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  • Picky is good. Careful to not let it turn into some self-righteous, self-loving, I think I’m much better than I actually am – kind of attitude though.