is a question I get asked a lot.
I hear it from friends, acquaintances, and strangers.
Folks who want to help me find the missing pieces to my life puzzle.
You know… the missing pieces.
And the man.
If I could just let them in on what the perfect piece looks like they will help me sort through the riff-raff and uncover the one hidden piece with the just right fit.
I am grateful for the help.
There is one problem.
I haven’t let myself define what those pieces look like.
Yeah, I can answer their questions in broad strokes.
I would like a man who is strong, kind, and funny.
But surely there are other things I would like in my dream man.
I would like a job putting my strengths to work for a cause that I believe in.
But there is more I should be able to pin down – what am I good at, what does my dream role look like, and what do I want to avoid.
I find myself terrified of pinning down the specifics.
Ambiguity is safe. Ambiguity leaves room for me to settle. Ambiguity attempts to save me from my setting my expectations to high.
But unfortunately ambiguity also keeps me from understanding my God-given desires. And ambiguity denies me the thankful “aha” when God brings them to fruition.
This summer I am forcing myself to answer both these questions with specifics. And so when the right job, and the right man, come a knocking I will recognize them as the missing pieces to the puzzle that is my life.
Have you clearly defined what you are looking for?