5 Lessons I Have Learned

The Moving Edition

Tomorrow morning I get on an American Airlines flight and head to Orange County to begin my new adventure. I am thankful that I will be greeted by a few familiar faces, that I have found a lovely place to lay my head {once my bed and all my stuff make their way}, and that I have a job that is sure to keep me quite busy.

Here is a quick list of things I have learned as I work my way through this transition:

1. I am terrible at goodbyes. Terrible. For the last two weeks, I have struggled to be present with some of my closest friends, to not allow myself to be distracted by the impending cross-country move, and it has been immensely difficult. How do you say goodbye to friends and mentors who have supported and championed you along the way? How do you leave a church that renewed your faith? How do walk away from families who have loved on you when you weren’t in a place to love yourself? Words don’t suffice. Finally Sunday after church and lunch, I got in my car, turned up the radio, pulled out of town and began to process through everything I was thinking and feeling.

2. Emotions are complicated. When we sit down and start sorting through what we are really feeling, we realize that the joy is right there with the grief, and the hope is right there with the fear. We need to give ourselves some time and grace to untangle them so that each is given the proper acknowledgment.

3. The world we exist in will naturally evolve in our absence. I realized this after making my last big move four years ago. Until that time, I operated under the freakishly naive assumption that my previous life would exist for me to step back in to whenever it was convenient for me. Not the case. I will change. My friends will change. My world will change. My friendships will change. Their friendships will change. Their world will change. I will never be able to go back and step into the same exact role I have previously played. But I will always be able to go back and meet everyone where they are.

4. As much as we try to invision our future, we have no idea what God has in store for us. Remember in January when I wrote this, I had NO IDEA {not even an inkling} that God would be preparing me for a move where I would do life day-in-day-out with these friends. I don’t think I can say it better than I said it then.

As hard as I try, as creatively as dream, I can not even begin to imagine what God has in store for me tomorrow, next week, or next year.

I know that there will be strangers who become friends, and friends who will become strangers. I know that there will be sadness and joy, love and heartbreak, death and new life. But I can’t begin to imagine the possibility that is in store.

So, here’s to 2011 and to a God who is weaving together a beautiful story that is simply and wonderfully unfathomable!

5. Road trips are for indulgences. And the ultimate indulgence de jour is the Nutter Butter Blizzard from Dairy Queen. I know that this seems a little out of place here but if you takeaway anything from this post, takeaway this…you need to indulge in a Cool Treat next time you pass a DQ. Life is too short not to.

What have you been learning lately?

PS – See you tomorrow California. Nashville, I miss you already! Thank you for being so incredibly wonderful to me.

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Lindsey has a sincere love for her precious dogs Molly and Maisy, a good red wine and the Delta Sky Club.

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  • Anonymous

    Great post! Three years ago we left behind everything we knew and loved and moved 1500 miles to a new life. I was optimistic and excited but I had no idea how much my life would change. I’m so grateful that God broke chains that I didn’t even know were there and I found a faith I didn’t even know was possible. But I didn’t realize how much my former world would evolve in my absence. It’s weird now when I go back and feel so out of place. 

    Right now I’m learning patience and total helplessness since I broke my foot yesterday. I just smile when God sends these curveballs my way, because I KNOW he wants to teach me something. I only hope I learn it. 

  • Shannie Ba Nannie

    Best wishes, Linds!  I love how you are taking a big bite out of life and stepping out in faith as you allow God to lead you.  I look forward to following this new adventure in your life.  Thank you for sharing and enjoy that beautiful salt air for me. 

    All blessings… all JOY! 

  • I love how you said point 3. So much wisdom. So true.
    Praying your move goes well! Can’t wait to hear how God will use you in this new place! 🙂

  • I just moved from Texas to South Carolina for a job in May. I knew each of these things going into it, but had no idea how difficult these things would be– especially number three. I have not yet allowed myself the time to process the emotions from my move, but look forward to seeing myself through your journey! Praying it goes smoothly!

    • Yeah, I still have a lot of processing that needs to be done in regards to my emotions. 

  • Remember, your new best friends are there… you just may not know them yet. Love you much sweet girl! 

  • I had a knot in my stomach the whole time reading this.  You’re courage inspires me.  To a wonderfully  unfathomable future and to many cool treats.

  • Thank you for taking the time to blog about all of this. Your raw feelings put a knot in my stomach, too (well said, Jacky). I think I need a blizzard to help soothe and process!

    I’m staying put geographically, but I feel God’s hit the accelerator on my growth. Love the adventure of life, faith, and the unknown with the One who knows us so well. Praying for you. Peace and joy, Lindsey!!

  • I can definitely agree with #4.  And it’s amazing how often that thing God has in store  for us isn’t anything we want.

  • Tiffany Crawford

    3 years ago, for the first time in my 30 years of my life, I moved from Texas to Florida. I lived in the same zip code my whole life, and was excited about the adventure. I did not expect the grief or the sadness, but I also did not expect the greatness of God manifest in my life. Blessings to you and your courage to pack up and move West.

    • Love that…about the greatness of God manifesting. May I give Him room.

  • Wow, last fall I made a cross-country move from Georgia to southern California, and this post took me back so strongly to a year ago. Life definitely evolves in our absence and that’s something I’m still struggling with, knowing that I’m evolving right along with the rest of the world we leave behind.

    Enjoy your road trip! Get those indulgences in.

  • Hi there – I’ve been reading your blog for a while… and I’m located in OC and would love to extend a welcome to you! I hope that it’s as wonderful for you as it’s been for me… as much as I have fought it. 🙂 

  • Jeremiah 29:11 gives me so much inspiration through the bad, good, and “I have no idea what’s going to happen” times.  

    Found you off twitter and I’m excited to hear about your transition.  I’m a California native who left California twice – First time to live in Tokyo for a year… Second time to live in Syracuse, NY for three years… and then I’m finally back in California.  Your blog truly reminds me of those transitional experiences.

    Leaving comfort zones and discovering a world beyond your bubble of life is never easy.  Never boring. But with the right attitude, discipline and faith, I know you will embrace the best and become your best.  God bless!

  • You just keep on driving up the coast and I will buy you all the DQ you want. Not really but I’ll spring for a large…and sprinkles.

  • turner_bethany

    I have been learning to be a forever student. This is my first year out of school, and anytime I see someone reading a textbook or doing a little research, I get a little sad. But I am learning to continue learning even though I am not going to class everyday. 

  • Anonymous

    I’m still in denial… See you soon, friend.  See you soon!

    • Me too! And I owe you a phone call. Sorry it’s been nuts. 🙂

  • Anonymous

    Hope we Californians are able to welcome you sufficiently.  Here is to your courage and bravery.  Clink

  • Lindsey, I’m so excited for you … and for California! 🙂  So glad I peeped in when I did — at such a doorway you’re walking through … to the unknown with the One who totally knows you.  You’ll bring sunshine with you to new friends and new places, Lindsey!  May you find glimpses of God’s welcoming presence every step of the way tomorrow!

  • Anonymous

    All the best, Lindsey! I applaud you! Your post resonated with me and brought back memories of moving continents almost four years ago when I returned to the U.S. after living overseas for twenty-seven years. And again when we moved from Orlando to Nashville in 2009. Truly no eye has seen and no ear has heard the wonderful things in store for those who believe. God has so much more in store for you yet! 

  • Praying for your trip and God’s grace to continue to abound in you. You are inspiring me to know that we can’t always stay in the comfort zones of life. I feel God preparing me for something big too. And.. I pray you get your dog back soon too. That should be #6 – never leave home without your dog. 

  • I read thru your blogs Lindsey and I see so many of my own questions echoed there from several years ago… I love the journey that you are on 🙂

  • Frannyg

    I relate to so many of these points, your post is great and I hope you were able to have a safe move. I hope you are enjoying your new adventure and keep on learning new things every day.