Perfectly Unique

At 35, memories of high school are starting to get a little blurry. But the feelings of insecurity and unworthiness that I felt as I lugged my mammouth backpack down the halls of Highland Park High School, well, they are still crystal clear.

Being a high school girl, and a junior high girl for that matter, is tough. Tough. It was tough 20 years ago when Thursday nights were for gathering around and watching Ross, Rachel, Chandler, Monica and the gang. And it’s tough today as we all scratch our heads and wonder who are the Kardashians and how might we keep with them. Battling eating disorders, self-loathing, doubt, insecurity and peer pressure in our celebrity-obsessed and screen-addicted culture has got to be tough.

So, how do we equip girls today? What tools can we give them to make them feel loved, understood, and to direct them to the One that strengthens, heals, redeems and restores? And how can help them see that they are perfectly unique? 

I don’t have all the answers but I do have a tip. Buy the young women in your life a copy of Annie Down’s new book, Perfectly Unique. 

Perfectly Unique is a candid, easy-to-read guide that uses real-life examples and faith-based instruction to equip Christian girls with the confidence, faith and moxie they’ll need to face their teen and college years.

And Annie Downs is hilarious, approachable, faithful, and passionate about speaking truth to girls today so they know what I’m still trying to figure out at 35….we are loved, we are known, and we are perfectly unique.

For one of you lucky readers, Zondervan has generously shared a copy of Perfectly Unique with me to giveaway.

If you would like to enter to win a copy of Perfectly Unique, just leave a comment below about a time that you remember feeling insecure and unworthy as a teen.  I will pick the winner on Friday and notify them via email.


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  • Hi Lindsey, I have to admit that I came accross your blog a few months back and I am moved by your insights on life. I’ve been a silent reader for a while and now that you’ve touched on a topic close to my heart I decided to take this opportunity to tell you how much I appreciate your blog. I believe you are right, it is tough for teenagers starting highschool and to be honnest the feelings of insecurity seem to follow us throughout life as well. Society still has its stereotipes when it comes to girls and this could be discouraging. As a teenager it’s tough assuming your own personality but it’s interesting being “unique”.

  • Megan

    I’ve been hearing about this book online the last couple of days and it sounds great. I don’t think the feelings of unworthiness and insecurity are tied only to “teen-hood” though, I still struggle through those same emotions as an adult. It’s really hard not to compare I work with a group of high school girls at my church– this could be a really fun study to go through.

  • Oh wow. This book seems so, so needed. Through high school I’ve been fortunate enough to be in an environment where I’ve been free to be confident and take risks, thanks mostly to my parents and my church family, but there are still so many days that I feel insecure and inadequate. I’ve gotten pretty good at covering it up, and so have most of my peers, so we all walk around feeling like the only one who is out of place and trying to play it cool. I’m not a public school student, but I have been taking some dual enrollment classes at our local community college, and combining the normal pressures with being one of the youngest people on campus makes it even more challenging.

    But one specific memory of feeling insecure and unworthy? Several months ago, someone I didn’t know at the time posted a photo of me on Facebook and said something extremely unkind. Unbeknownst to him, we have several mutual friends who saw the post and jumped on defending me. And while I had plenty of people counteracting his cruel words, I’d be lying if I said they didn’t still sting. I have never, ever felt so ugly or unworthy in my life.

    I’m almost done with high school, but I imagine that the next few years will be a minefield. I’m just grateful that Annie has written this book. I imagine that it will serve as a lifeline for many.

  • I’m so excited to read this book and share it with younger girls. I remember playing hockey and being the only girl on an guys team and feeling like I wasn’t wanted there. It changed, but didn’t improve when I played on an all-girls team either. I was left feeling insecure because I didn’t know where I fit with the popular girls who I could relate with on the ice, but not in the school hallways. I’m sure there are still lessons for me in this book at age 29!

  • Jessi Whitt

    During my teens, I was extremely shy & very self-conscious about my body image. Mentally, I thought of myself as pretty mature, but on the outside, I looked like I had a 7 yr old’s body. I felt like guys wouldn’t like my 5’2″ boyish figure. I’ve learned to embrace my body image…although I’m still 5’2″, but now I’m mistaken for a 14 yr old instead of a 26 yr old. I have 3 nieces and don’t want them to feel the pressure to look like everyone else. I want them to embrace who God made them to be.

  • notyourpreacherswife

    I went to an all-girls high school which had both it’s strengths and weaknesses for promoting self confidence. There was nothing we didn’t think we could do. But there was often a girl lurking in the hall waiting to watch you fall or help you get there. But my most embarrassing moment involved boys, shocking I know. Episcopal High School was all boys at the time and one pay phone served each floor of about 40 boys. I had a crush on Dana (bad name for a really cute boy) “He” called me one night to invite me to his high school prom. I was so excited I quickly said yes and called my girlfriend who dated his roommate. She quickly called him to discuss our fabulous double date plans. Three days later the phone rang and this time it was the real Dana. Apparently someone on his hall thought it would be funny to fake invite me. The real Dana was not going at all, he was headed home to Baltimore for his grandfather’s 75th birthday party. I never found out who the prankster was so I ended up being embarrassed around all the boys. 15 years later, I saw that Drew Barrymore movie when she went back to high school as a reporter and was waiting on the baseball diamond for THE boy to come rescue her. The feeling of an entire stadium looking at you, exposed and vulnerable is exactly how I felt. Now I have 3 girls and want to pass on strength and wisdom to them. Am I disqualified if I admit your sister Marcie is my good friend in Raleigh?

  • I love all of Phoebe Atwood Taylor’s mysteries. Because I lived in Massachusetts most of my life, I kew many of the places that appear in her books, both the Asey Mayo books and these.