Owning Our Gifts

Hey. My name is Lindsey. That’s me crouched on the front left with the stripes surrounded by women I get to serve on the IF:Gathering leadership team.

Many of them you probably recognize — they lead your bible studies, they takeover your twitter feed for the Olympics, Miss America and the Oscars {and make you cry laughing}, they write the books that rest faithfully on your bedside tables, and they are the voices that inspire you to live more boldly, take better pictures, and find your callings. They are pretty much are rock stars. But more importantly, they are beautiful {inside and out} people, dear friends, and women actively chasing after Jesus and trying to be more like Him.

I’m kind of the odd woman out. The one without a husband or a boyfriend. The one without an agent. The one without a book deal. The one who doesn’t frequent conference stages. The one who so completely feels like a Ragamuffin.

These ladies they could care less about that stuff but if I’m honest from time to time it gets to me. Not in a “I wish I could be them” sort of way but in a “does what I have to offer matter” sort of way. And, if I’m honest, this fall I started to forget who I am and the importance of my voice and strengths. I started to believe that I wasn’t enough. I started to diminish myself.

On the Saturday of the IF:Gathering, we asked women to write on a stone to memorialize what God was calling them to and what they were going to do about.


What I wrote on my stone was all about me remembering and owning that God is my Creator.

That I am His beloved.

That He knit me together with unique giftings.

That I am IN SIN when I disqualify myself because I don’t I cast vision like Jennie, preach like Bianca, sing like Lauren, mobilize like Jen, or pray like Ann.

That I need to own my gifts, use my voice, and stop comparing myself.

That my gifts might not attract the masses BUT they are still immensely valuable.

{and so are yours by the way}

Y’all, God didn’t make us all to be speakers, teachers, singers and writers. He made some of us to be team builders. He made some of us to be connectors. He made some of us to be strategic leaders. He made some of us to be award-winning home makers. He made some of us to be welcoming hosts. He made some of us to be prayer warriors. He made some of us to be freedom fighters. He made some of us to be compassionate caretakers. He made some of us to be wise counselors. And he made some of us to be loyal sidekicks.

We all need to own who God created us to be. And remember that we are His masterpiece. Designed purposefully to play a specific part in His good work.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

I’m curious if I’m the only one who struggles with this…

What gifts has God given you? 

Are you fully owning who He created  you to be or are you too busy looking to the right and the left and wishing He made you more like so-and-so? 

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Lindsey has a sincere love for her precious dogs Molly and Maisy, a good red wine and the Delta Sky Club.

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  • This is my favorite blog post. Ever. <3

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  • kelly balarie

    This is a fabulous post. Amen & Amen. Way to go.

    • lindseyrnobles

      Thanks Kelly.

  • Rose

    Lindsay, thank you so much. I cried after I read this. This is pretty much 1 Corinthians 12: 14-31.
    I often feel like I don’t fit in and I think you really hit the nail on the head with something. A lot of us gals with the “quieter” gifts don’t even know that we have them. Until I started seeing a wonderful Christian counselor, I never even realized that “mercy” is in a fact a gift. It is mine for sure but for the longest time I literally just thought I was some kind of naive Pollyanna. I’m a trained healthcare professional so I guess it’s no wonder I
    gravitated towards a field in which I can help other people who are hurting
    but I think the hurt I’ve been through in my life has enabled me to see
    other people who are hurting too. Once I stopped to give medical attention to homeless man who was lying in the middle of a sidewalk and made sure he was taken to an ER…I was told I was “stupid” and “naive” for doing that and other things like it (despite there being absolutely no safety problems with helping the man in broad daylight in the middle of a busy city sidewalk)….even worse I started to believe that I actually was stupid and naive. I also have an uncanny ability (which I now attribute to the Holy Spirit) to find the people who are “lost in the sauce” so to speak within my church community…the people who are quietly hurting and feel alone. Yup, I really can spot them from a mile away and I immediately do whatever I can do to tell the person that I see them and that Jesus sees them and they are not alone. And even though I obviously have one of the quieter gifts, I can be loud and have the ability to speak very clearly while mincing no words when I have so stand up for someone who does not have a voice. I know that this comes from the Holy Spirit too because I am usually a quiet and polite gal and you would never guess I could this…and I find it almost scary sometimes too because I completely do not have my own words or ability to speak like a well-trained public speaker who can call out an injustice boldly and demand the right thing for someone….but then I do it. I kid you not, it is like it’s not even me when it happens. Believe me it shocks other people too. All of these things have happened on many occasions in many different ways and I’m not saying any of this to announce how wonderful I am but I just want other gals who might have the gift of mercy (and related gifts) to know what it might look like…and I really want to say THANK YOU Lindsay! So many many hugs to you girlfriend. Keep on preaching 1 Corinthians 12: 14-31! People need to hear more of this so that the body of Christ can work together as it should!

    • lindseyrnobles

      Love this Rose!

  • Leah

    Isnt it funny how we see so clearly everyone else’s giftedness but tend to not see our own! I read this and thought, “How can she not think she is an amazing writer…reaching woman with such an important message!” If you are questioning your gifteness, start listening when you receive compliments from others. I’m guessing you will see a trend!

    • lindseyrnobles

      Great point Leah!

  • Ene78

    This was an awesome read! You just spoke too so many of us and that is God within you. It definitely spoke to me, at 37 I at times struggle with this feeling I am not where Im suppose to be as if I knew what is best for me. I love to look around and I smile as I appreciate where I am is exactly where he wants me.

  • Krysten

    So needed to hear this, and I know many others do as well. Thank you for sharing your heart, Lindsey!

  • bree

    Lindsey, thank you for this. I wrote “find my gift” on my rock, for all those reasons you mentioned above. I feel like everyone else has something better to offer than I do. Thank you for the encouragement. God bless you today!

  • Jen M.

    Just when I was feeling like I was only writer out there without a book deal, without an agent, without a speaking schedule. Thank you, Lindsey. Thank you so much! Keep writing, God is using your gifts. And YOU! Jen My blog? http://www.writingjen.com

  • Stephanie De La Garza

    Yes, I feel like this all the time. I always compare myself to my friends or to others because I always feel like i’m not smart enough. I don’t live up to who God created me to be because I become intimidated by others who I think are ” better than me” (so i think in my mind). Which hinders me to be fully who i am in Christ. I struggle with rejection and I need God to help me see who He made me to be! I need to look up to the One who is able and not look into my own ability but HIS!!
    I am glad He has blessed me with a voice to sing, am creative, and so much more that I am not yet aware of. 🙂

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  • sam

    I think most of us feel like the odd one out, whether we’re single or married; minister at home, out in the world, or some combination of both.

    I think your gift of encouragement is wonderfully needed and dearly appreciated. I think the things done and said without the spectacle and spotlight have been some of the most needed & precious words spoken to me. I truly thank God for the people in my life who care enough to be obedient to the Lord’s whisper and send a text or call to say I’m on their heart, they are praying for me and send a scripture or verse that they had no *clue* how much it ministered to me.

    I think when we feel our giftings are not as valuable as someone else’s we have given them more esteem than God does.

    “And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater modesty, but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body, having given greater honor to that part which lacks it, that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another.” 1 Corinthians 12: 23-25

  • I finally had the chance to read and process this a bit Lindsey. Gah! *Tears* I am gifted to be a prayer warrior, connector and loyal sidekick as well as a teacher and writer. The problem with the second half is that I am now surrounded by incredible women who do that, in my mind, a million times better than I do. Comparison…#TheStruggleIsReal May God pluck out the insecurity, sin and doubt within us all by the root. In Jesus’s Name!

  • Nichole Jones

    This is great! Thank you Lindsey for sharing! Right now I’m at a place where I don’t even know what my gifts are. For the last two-and-a-half years (since I had my son, had back surgery, and had to quit my f/t job to stay home) I have been feeling really lost and not good at anything I try to do. I want so bad to own my gifts and feel productive in what God wants me to do, but I can’t for the life of me figure out what it is.

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  • Larka Vesper

    This showed up on my feed tonight. It’s interesting because to me you are one of these gals. You are this person I see from afar who writes blog posts, works for meaningful companies, lives in fun cities and really “lives life” as a single gal. I started to tear up reading about you shrinking back and losing sight of some important things. I’ve been there lately. I had a big job change which meant a big change in my day to day. I’m starting to see Ive been dehydrated and need to come more alive. Thankful for your post.