Hurt People, Hurt People

This Spring in my Crosspoint Community Group, we have been studying a book called Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero. Big title, right? It’s a big study too. It is the kind of book that makes you dig deep, ask tough questions, and work through your issues – and let’s face it we all have […]

“When Helping Hurts, Part 2”

Relief: Immediate and temporary emergency aid in which a provider does something for a passive recipient. The Good Samaritan is a great example of a relief effort.  There is a provider and a receiver. When people are helpless, relief is the appropriate intervention. Relief is a handout of material resources. Once the bleeding has stopped, we need […]

“When Helping Hurts”

Dr. Brian Fikkert is a Professor of Economics and the founder and Executive Director of the Chalmers Center for Economic Development at Covenant College. Dr. Fikkert earned a Ph.D. in economics from Yale University, specializing in international economics and economic development. He has been a consultant to the World Bank and is the author of […]

On Peace, Direction, and Clarity and What’s Next

From June 9th on my Instagram. Spent the last week at @onsiteworkshops. I am so thankful for the work of @milesadcox and their entire team. Nervously walked into a room with 40 strangers a week ago and am leaving changed — with a renewed sense of peace, of direction and of clarity. We laughed together. We cried together. […]

the single sessions

An Interview with Joy Beth Smith

Hey, Lindsey here. One of the things I wanted to do after writing and reading all the comments on Church & The Single Girl, Part 1 and Part 2 was tell stories. Tell stories of other single people who are in the trenches of life, trying to discern their next steps, and embrace their singleness with […]

Church and the Single Girl, Part 2

I have been avoiding this. This processing, this writing, this — dare I say it, I really don’t want it to be — calling. After my last post, I have felt so BURDENED. I thought that I felt burdened before, that I needed to write those words, and that I needed to publish them but then once they were out […]

You Know How I Wasn’t Invited…

To attend that party? To play on that team? To sit at that table? To go on that trip?  It’s okay. It really is okay. It wasn’t okay at first. I was hurt as everyone whispered plans and gushed about the fun to be had. I was wistful as I watched every picture go up on Instagram. I was angry as names were […]

UNdoing Hatred

Everywhere I turn these days people seem to be perturbed, to be brimming over with anger, to be teetering on the edge of hatred. On the gridlocked roads. In crowded football stadiums. On the interwebs. We rage. We incite. We defend. And we all have our excuses about why our latest outrage is justifiable. WE […]