Finding Comfort in Tears

Yesterday was one of those days. One of those days where I was inexplicably in a dark mood. I felt anxious, lonely, tired, sad, and overwhelmed. The feelings crept up on me in the morning and by the afternoon they were inescapable.

On the my way home I dialed Dad. He answered and was greeted with a flood of my emotions. My dad is wonderful in this type of situation because he is a skilled listener. He heard me out, said a few calming words, and told me he loved me.

Inescapable Emotion

Finding Comfort in Tears

As I hung up the phone and continued to weep, I wondered where these feelings had come from. I am generally pretty content, and honestly nothing about yesterday was out of the ordinary. I wondered why in the midst of my sadness I felt so alive. I wondered why my tears felt strangely comforting.

And I realized that these tears represented my raw emotion. This was me being real. And I decided to wallow in these dark feelings, just for a little while. And so I spent the night in the comfort of my pajamas, with Molly the dog, and a movie that was guaranteed to be a tearjearker. And I loved every minute of it…

How do you deal with your moments, days, weeks, months, of sadness?

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  • Wonderful post, Lindsey. I have those days, too. In fact, in fact, tonight at church, someone started talking to me and just broke down. The stress and uncertainty in the overall environment is creating a lot of this, I think. But we’ll all get through.

  • gailbhyatt

    Wow, Lindsey.

    Thanks for sharing this. We all feel like this – more than we want to admit. Thanks for giving us permission.

    I wish my dad was still here. There are many days I would love to call him. How wonderful you can call yours. What a gift he is.

    Keep writing.

  • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inviting others to respond. It would be great if many do share their “life preservers.”

    When overwhelmed, I seek out music, books, lunch, dogs, and–most important–locating something simple I can write and admire. The feeling of accomplishment that comes when a previously unformulated idea becomes a tangible paragraph.

    Luckily, my wife and I are often 180 degrees out of sync with each other, which also evens out the rough times.

  • whatpowersyou


    It must have been going around. We should’ve called each other for a BYOK night (Bring You Own Kleenex, that is.). Thanks for having the courage to be honest about it and not just retreat like so many of us do. And, thank God for dad to call. I think I made the very same phone call at about the same time.

  • Thank you for being so personal in painting the picture of life complete with love, sadness, and the awkwardness that falls between.

    I got reminded of the lyrics of the hit song “I’m a big big Girl in a big big World” by Emilia.

    • lindseyreadenobles

      Scott, Let them roll and shoot me an email if there is anything I can do for you.

      • lindseyreadenobles

        I will check out your blog too. Thanks for stopping by!

  • Jessica

    Im with you… Sometimes you just have to let it happen… Its ok to embrace it and then move on from it. Its a sort self healing.

  • GB

    Thanks for the post. I identify myself with you in such situations which come unexpectedly. It is an assurance that they are common 🙂 God bless you.

  • This is the first time I visit your blog as I didn’t know of its existence till now. It is such a good blog, so human- I’ll be back.

  • Ginger Nobles

    What a remarkable young woman you are. I am so proud of you and your skills and maturity!!! I love you very much.

    • lindseyreadenobles

      I turn on auto pilot so often. Sometime I will arrive someplace and think how did I get here.

  • Scott

    Thanks for writing and posting this Lindsey. It was timely for me in light of this week. I am NOT an emotional person and I have been fighting the tears, but you have encouraged me to let loose.

    As has been said, thank you for your transparency. This kind of courageous writing is how you truly become an influencer of others.

  • I love that you went to that place, and weren’t afraid of it. In fact, you embraced it.

    I think the struggle that most of us have is to pretend that “that place” doesn’t exist and when it comes up, we try to hide it so we don’t reveal it; as if it’s a weakness. Not only does your post identify with EVERY person, whether they know it or not, but it reminds us to embrace our emotions…something that I don’t do very well.

    Thanks for the reminder.

  • marthasilalahi

    Hi I am Martha Silalahi. I m from indonesia. but now i am at my last semester of MA program in New Delhi. I like ur simple writing. In fact sometimes i suddenly i felt sad especially if thingking about home. It is difficult to be far away from family, felt lonely…and tears come out…
    oh ya..even i have best dad in the world…a good listener…his words comfort me… suggestion and ideas also spirit.
    but above that….Jesus Christ is the best…dont forget to keep counting the blessings given, it would ur days cheerful….Gbu

  • vonnia

    We all have these time, don’t we? I read once that crying releases a chemical that makes us feel better. But it has to be actual crying, not just feeling down.

    My theory, and it’s mine – I don’t have it backed up by anything except my own brain – is that crying is something we all *need* to do from time to time, in order to avoid problems of long term sadness, which could develop into depression.

    I have oodles of theories about life. Take this one for what it’s worth. 😉

  • This is what I love about blogs—-so nice to hear the real emotion so many of us are feeling right now. I see things regularly that tells me how we are on auto pilot—cars driving down one way streets the wrong way, running red lights, just being out of their bodies……thanks for sharing!

  • anand231

    I agree with seeing. I got rejected by a grad school that I was aiming for (LSE), and instead of getting depressed like I thought I would, i feel nothing, thats bcause i have unwavering faith that something even better will come along (may be oxford or cambridge!)

  • “Raw emotion.” I know how it feels. Like you, I also can’t understand why it happens but I’m glad that you found comfort amidst of it. And you’re blessed to have your dad 🙂

    I’m new in wordpress, and your blog is the first that I’ve read! Very encouraging to continue on and meet fellow bloggers. Hope you don’t mind I’ll add you on my blogroll. Cheers!

  • Is it weird that I came and talked to you about my own crazy emotions the very next morning? I think the uncertainty of the environment is affecting all of us, no matter our actual situation, if only subconsciously. In some ways, this feels like a call for me to be a ray of sunshine to strangers in the hopes of adding some happiness to our otherwise gloomy environment. In other ways, it seems like a good reason to sit down with people and be real about what you’re feeling and help some of the emotion just get out there. Also, I hear that running a half marathon does wonders… 🙂

  • Great post Lindsey. I just finished talking to Brandi about how I was having one of those days.

    Praying for you right now!