Things I Don’t Say Enough

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Yesterday, I shared a list of phrases that just seem to pop out of my mouth at any opportune silence.

The phrases below, not so much. I have to be intentional each time I use them. And unfortunately I don’t say them enough.

No. No. No. Noooooooo.

I’m scared.

I need help.

I can’t do it alone.

I love you.

I believe in you.

I am on your team.

It’s all my fault.

I was wrong.

You hurt my feelings.

I’m upset with you because…

You are forgiven.

What are you doing Sunday? You want to come to church?

What’s on your list of things you don’t say enough?

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May 28, 2010 in Life with 24 Comments

About Lindsey: Lindsey recently joined Project 7 as their Director of Community. And is in the process of figuring out how to live life California-style.

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert

    I can relate to this. I rarely, if ever, hear those things outside of my wife or parents. I can't remember the last time someone other than my wife or parents said that they believe in me. So I make a point to tell it to others…I know the value of those encouraging words.

    It's great you realize you don't say those words enough…because I've read you enough to know you'll start saying them more…and your friends will be blessed by it.
    My recent post Anne Rice: I Am Second

  • http://www.ordinarilyextraordinary.com/ Amy Nabors

    I have a really hard time telling someone I'm upset with them especially those who aren't the closest of friends or my husband. I tend to keep it inside. Definitely something I'm trying to work on.
    My recent post Art on the Lake at Children's Harbor

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Me too…

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/genesis5020 aaron

    Great post Lindsey. Thanks for being transparent. I am with you on most, if not every single one of those.
    My recent post The White Horse

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/jennyrain JennyRain

    you're right
    My recent post Friday Favorites: Round 6

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/scottdwinter Scott D. Winter

    All the above… Yikes.

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/tommartinatl tommartinatl

    Great list and I appreciate the thoughts & reflection that went into this post. I think we are raised to believe (especially men) “asking for help” is a sign of weakness, and we end up wallowing in what we are dealing with far too long. One difficult lesson I learned is my pride & ego usually delay asking for help, which ends up diluting the effectiveness of the help I receive because of the wait.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      I've always thought that I was pretty good at asking for help. Then this Spring I had several friends point out little and big things that I wouldn't let them help with…from lugging around my over-packed backpack to helping me pack after my house was flooded. I need to be better at asking for help and feeling strong when I do it.

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/kaikunane ThatGuyKC

    "What are you doing Sunday? You want to come to church?"

    How are you really?

    No.

    I respectfully disagree.

    My recent post It is Finished! Sort of.

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/patriciazell patriciazell

    My constant words to God are "I have no knowledge, no understanding, and no wisdom…please give me Your knowledge, Your understanding, and Your wisdom. I need Your help!" God is faithful and His love is absolute–perfect, complete, and real!

    My recent post #43 THE RETURN OF CHRIST: THE CAST, PART ONE

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/practicinghuman practicinghuman

    I really can't do this by myself.

    Thank you.

    I remember you in my prayers.

    You are not alone.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      "You are not alone"…that is a great one. So powerful.

  • http://www.lauraleighparker.com laura@life overseas

    hey, it's no big deal. (and i'm not going to yell at your for spilling your cereal again)

    you were right, i totally messed that up. (and i'm not going to blame anyone else for it)

    i am so grateful for you (and my actions are going to back that up)

    My recent post Vows from Another Decade

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Love the thoughts behind the words…

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Peter_P Peter_P

    Lindsey,

    I don't get to come by your blog often enough. Keep it up, I love what you write, the thoughts you share and the questions you ask!
    My recent post How to Backup your WordPress Site

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Thanks Peter. Means a lot.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Bianca_Juarez Bianca_Juarez

    Side note: I wish I would've thought about posting this! It was awesome.

    My recent post rihanna, fashion fail, and spirituality…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      Steal the idea…with my permission. In fact I might go scouting your blog for some ideas….

  • http://www.sarahmarkley.com Sarah Markley

    this is what i don't say enough:

    "i'm gonna sit down and call lindesy nobles right now."

    =) miss you friend.

    truly what i don't say enough to my kids or my husband:
    I'M PROUD OF YOU
    My recent post Cards With Friends

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lindsey_Nobles Lindsey_Nobles

      I know…we need a phone date. STAT. the text messages today didn't cut it.

      things i don't say enough…I'm coming to Orange to see YOU!

  • http://www.howtohospitality.com Becky Miller

    "I am not okay."

    I should say that much more than I say what usually comes out: "I'm fine."

    I started seeing a counselor last week because I feel like I need some assistance continuing on the journey toward emotional health I started last year. It was so freeing to say that to her in our first session: "I am not okay."
    My recent post Archive Imported from Xanga

    • http://www.lindseynobles.com Lindsey_Nobles

      When people say "fine" to me, I usually say "fine" = "sucks" because it is a word that is only used when people don't want to tell the whole truth. I'm guilty of it too.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/taminprogress taminprogress

    "God? its tam…."
    My recent post How He Loves